Whenever a student runs out of things to say during an interaction, I have him return to the old interview technique of the 6 Ws:
Who
What
Where
Why
When
And hoW
Here are examples:
Who? Identity questions
Who are you? What do you do?
What? Questions about her items
What is this purse made from? Who gave you this necklace?
Where?
Where are you from? Where do you live?
Why?
Why are you out n about? What are you celebrating tonight?
When?
When do you have to get up tomorrow?
How?
How'd you get here? Did you drive or did someone bring you?
Use these as a framework to come back to and let it spark questions.
Saturday, August 28, 2010
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
Tell Us Your Stories
We're gonna be posting coaching sessions here on our blog.
If you want Max and I to record a 30-60 minute coaching call with you and add it to the blog, email me at marlowe@manschool.cc.
For letting us use your session, we will give you $100 off a month of Man School.
Cheers!
If you want Max and I to record a 30-60 minute coaching call with you and add it to the blog, email me at marlowe@manschool.cc.
For letting us use your session, we will give you $100 off a month of Man School.
Cheers!
Sunday, August 22, 2010
Two New Vids: Intent and Drive
I gave a talk to Casanova Crew a few weeks ago, and here is a glimpse at what I talked about.
The talk was called "The 3 Steps of Taking Action," and those three steps are...
For your viewing pleasure, a couple brief segments from that day:
Drive
Intent
Enjoy!
The talk was called "The 3 Steps of Taking Action," and those three steps are...
((drumroll))
1. Assertiveness
2. Intent3. Drive
Drive
Intent
Enjoy!
Saturday, August 21, 2010
Psychology Primer on Kindle
Dr. Marlowe's Psychology Primer is now available on Amazon's Kindle store.
Check it out.
The ebook explores the psychology of dating, from the man's perspective. Dr. Marlowe discusses things like limiting beliefs, intent, assertiveness, anxiety and confidence, and gives you tools to handle your issues with women.
Students of Man School get a free copy of the ebook upon enrollment, but for the rest of yous, stop by and purchase it for your Kindle today! Coming soon: the iPad version.
Check it out.
The ebook explores the psychology of dating, from the man's perspective. Dr. Marlowe discusses things like limiting beliefs, intent, assertiveness, anxiety and confidence, and gives you tools to handle your issues with women.
Students of Man School get a free copy of the ebook upon enrollment, but for the rest of yous, stop by and purchase it for your Kindle today! Coming soon: the iPad version.
Thursday, August 19, 2010
How to Lose your Hair
Our latest article on getting rid of your fur:
http://www.tsbmag.com/2010/08/19/how-to-lose-your-hair/
http://www.tsbmag.com/2010/08/19/how-to-lose-your-hair/
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
Women are Indecisive. Wait, no they're not.
Are Women Indecisive?
Men and women really do make decisions differently. Though Holly is coming from a marketing background, the mindsets are the same when talking about relationships.
"Think back to hunter-gatherer days when men were focused on the short-term outcome - hunting their pray to bring home that night to eat. Women were focused on longer-term objectives, like having enough food to last the winter."It's not much different with sex. A man goes out at night to find his conquest, focused on the short-term gain. A woman tends to go about things more tentatively, often anxious about relinquishing herself sexually. Even after she has carefully considered all the possible consquences (real ones, like pregnancy, STDs and social stigma), she still may erect barriers between her and her sexual desires.
Often, men become frustated by her apparent unwillingness, even though she clearly seems willing. The key then is in realizing that women come to decisions with greater awareness of the risks compared to men. The man needs to acknowledge this fact, and respect it.
As Holly says, women are not always averse to taking risks. They simply need to run their checklist: will he judge me? is he creepy? do I feel safe with him? does he respect me?
Then when she has processed all these variables (which, by the way, are primarily occuring on an emotional and subconscious level, not a logical or conscious one), she will make her decision.
The article encourages salespeople to find out what concerns a woman has, why she is hesitating. With seduction, sometimes this works but often it doesn't. It's typically best to be aware of and assume what things give women pause; what these things are varies only slightly from one woman to the next. Meaning, they typically tend to want the man to take responsibility, to make her feel safe, to engage her emotionally, et cetera.
She goes on to recommend the use of testimonials. In pick-up, we have a term called "preselection," which in essence is your testimonial page. By hanging out with other women, she realizes (at least on a primitive level) that you have "good genes."
Finally, she urges salespeople to sell with stories, not facts. True again, you rarely will attract a girl by handing her your resume, regardless how spectacular it is. She needs to feel your value, emotionally, whether through the stories you tell or the way you handle yourself.
Monday, August 16, 2010
Dress for Success
Man School is always looking for ways to help out the ladies. That's a big part of what we're about!Now, when a girl encourages one of her dude friends to enroll with us, we will donate $10 per month to Dress for Success. It's a charitable organization who helps get the women of the world into the workforce.
Check it out here to find out more...
Saturday, August 14, 2010
Our book store is up and running!!
Just finished designing our book store. Stop by and browse some of the titles we recommend to our students...
http://www.manschool.cc/bookstore.htm
http://www.manschool.cc/bookstore.htm
I already AM a man!
Probably the biggest proponent of Man School is women. Every chick I've mentioned this program to has been enthusiastic and willing to get the word out to their guy friends.
Dudes have been often times less exuberant.
It's no wonder. Telling a dude he needs help to be a true man may send up his defenses. Mostly, that is all ego stuff.
The truth remains, though, that a ton of guys simply aren't satisfied with their lives, or the way they process the world. Sure, they'll complain that things aren't working out like they expected, but when it comes to pin-pointing why this is, or how to get on track, they are clueless.
Man School is created for humble dudes. Fellas who recognize their limitations and want to point in the direction of success. I chose the name Man School realizing full well it would alienate - even offend - many people. I'm okay with that. Because for each guy put off by the name, there's someone else out there who gets it.
So for all you guys who are on the fence and don't know if Man School is for you, ask yourself these questions:
1. Do I have quality women in my life? Or have I been settling and compromising?
2. Do I EVEN KNOW what kinds of women I really want? Or have I just been taking whatever falls into my lap?
3. Do I know myself? Am I confident about the things that really deeply matter to me, and can I attract women who align with these values? Or am I unclear about my values and beliefs, and draw in girls who contradict what is important to me?
4. Do I communicate my core clearly and with power to others? Or do people lose respect for me, take advantage of me, or are not captivated when I speak?
5. Do I know how to keep great girls in my life, even as friends? Or do they lose interest and stop hanging out with me, apparently for no reason?
6. Am I going after everything that I want in life, including women? Or am I making excuses, procrastinating and being passive?
I could go on and on, but guys, you get the point here. If you are not happy with parts of your life, if you feel like you aren't fully stepping up as a man, then let's brainstorm and come up with a plan.
Dudes have been often times less exuberant.It's no wonder. Telling a dude he needs help to be a true man may send up his defenses. Mostly, that is all ego stuff.
The truth remains, though, that a ton of guys simply aren't satisfied with their lives, or the way they process the world. Sure, they'll complain that things aren't working out like they expected, but when it comes to pin-pointing why this is, or how to get on track, they are clueless.
Man School is created for humble dudes. Fellas who recognize their limitations and want to point in the direction of success. I chose the name Man School realizing full well it would alienate - even offend - many people. I'm okay with that. Because for each guy put off by the name, there's someone else out there who gets it.
So for all you guys who are on the fence and don't know if Man School is for you, ask yourself these questions:
1. Do I have quality women in my life? Or have I been settling and compromising?
2. Do I EVEN KNOW what kinds of women I really want? Or have I just been taking whatever falls into my lap?
3. Do I know myself? Am I confident about the things that really deeply matter to me, and can I attract women who align with these values? Or am I unclear about my values and beliefs, and draw in girls who contradict what is important to me?
4. Do I communicate my core clearly and with power to others? Or do people lose respect for me, take advantage of me, or are not captivated when I speak?
5. Do I know how to keep great girls in my life, even as friends? Or do they lose interest and stop hanging out with me, apparently for no reason?
6. Am I going after everything that I want in life, including women? Or am I making excuses, procrastinating and being passive?
I could go on and on, but guys, you get the point here. If you are not happy with parts of your life, if you feel like you aren't fully stepping up as a man, then let's brainstorm and come up with a plan.
Wednesday, August 11, 2010
Living with Intention
Here's a snippet from my recent article...
You see a cutie at a bookstore and devise a plan to get wit her. Sounds good brother! Problem is, shit crops up, and it tries to derail you every step of the way…
Step One: Approach her
You step to her, but at that very moment, her cell goes off. You abort and reach for a book to save face.
Step Two: Game her
She hangs up and you do finally open her and spit some game. She’s digging you, but the bookstore is closing. You’re forced to leave before the moment feels right to get her number.
Step Three: Get her digits
The two of you keep talking outside. Things are going swell, so you give her your phone and tell her to punch in her number. “Awww…I have a boyfriend,” she apologizes. But you keep chatting her up and finally she admits they’ve broken up a few times and the relationship has been mostly strained. Nice! You invite her to hang out in a few days.
Step Four: Take her out
The time comes to meet up, but she gives you a last-minute excuse about needing to hang out with her dad. You reschedule, she flakes, you reschedule, she flakes. Finally, with enough persistence and game, the two of you meet up.
Step Five: Close the deal
It’s going smoothly. You get her back to your pad and make out, but she resists getting totally undressed. After two hours of foreplay she surrenders and you seduce her. Lay report to follow.
We can all relate to having goals, even these very goals. You see a lovely girl and then a flood of ideas similar to the above pops into your head, planted there by well-meaning fellas like myself…
Goal vs Intention
So what’s the diff?
The intention was that thought which clicked on in your head when you saw the hottie: “I am going to seduce her.” It’s your internal call to action. That plan may not be possible. It may in fact have absolutely no basis in reality. It may be so outside your comfort zone and beyond your skill set that the chances of it coming to fruition are as unlikely as a good Jennifer Aniston film.
But intentions don’t care about all that. “I am going to seduce her. Let’s make it happen. Go.”
You set your intention, and then you go about finding ways to bring it into reality. Often you will need to create a series of goals, such as the above. Many times, though, the universe will sort itself out automagically, seemingly with little effort on your part, where everything falls into place.
Goals are at the service of your intention. When certain goals fail (her phone goes off as you approach, she’s got a boyfriend, she keeps flaking), you can always abandon that particular goal and fall back onto your intention for further guidance. Your unwavering intention will then compel you to seek out, stumble upon or invent new goals to see you through.
The rest of the article is available to Man School students.
You see a cutie at a bookstore and devise a plan to get wit her. Sounds good brother! Problem is, shit crops up, and it tries to derail you every step of the way…
Step One: Approach her
You step to her, but at that very moment, her cell goes off. You abort and reach for a book to save face.
Step Two: Game her
She hangs up and you do finally open her and spit some game. She’s digging you, but the bookstore is closing. You’re forced to leave before the moment feels right to get her number.
Step Three: Get her digits
The two of you keep talking outside. Things are going swell, so you give her your phone and tell her to punch in her number. “Awww…I have a boyfriend,” she apologizes. But you keep chatting her up and finally she admits they’ve broken up a few times and the relationship has been mostly strained. Nice! You invite her to hang out in a few days.
Step Four: Take her out
The time comes to meet up, but she gives you a last-minute excuse about needing to hang out with her dad. You reschedule, she flakes, you reschedule, she flakes. Finally, with enough persistence and game, the two of you meet up.
Step Five: Close the deal
It’s going smoothly. You get her back to your pad and make out, but she resists getting totally undressed. After two hours of foreplay she surrenders and you seduce her. Lay report to follow.
We can all relate to having goals, even these very goals. You see a lovely girl and then a flood of ideas similar to the above pops into your head, planted there by well-meaning fellas like myself…
THE GAME PLAN: approach, gain attraction, take her number, run text game, work logistics, get her out, escalate, pull, close.By themselves however, these goals may or may not be enough. When they aren’t – as is so often the case – you need something else you can fall back on, something broader and more powerful. That something is your intention.
Goal vs Intention
So what’s the diff?
The intention was that thought which clicked on in your head when you saw the hottie: “I am going to seduce her.” It’s your internal call to action. That plan may not be possible. It may in fact have absolutely no basis in reality. It may be so outside your comfort zone and beyond your skill set that the chances of it coming to fruition are as unlikely as a good Jennifer Aniston film.
But intentions don’t care about all that. “I am going to seduce her. Let’s make it happen. Go.”
You set your intention, and then you go about finding ways to bring it into reality. Often you will need to create a series of goals, such as the above. Many times, though, the universe will sort itself out automagically, seemingly with little effort on your part, where everything falls into place.
Goals are at the service of your intention. When certain goals fail (her phone goes off as you approach, she’s got a boyfriend, she keeps flaking), you can always abandon that particular goal and fall back onto your intention for further guidance. Your unwavering intention will then compel you to seek out, stumble upon or invent new goals to see you through.
The rest of the article is available to Man School students.
7 Kinds of Facebook Posts
You all have been asking me to explain the kinds of posts that can appear on your Facebook wall. Well strap yourself in...here we go.
1. Informative
Pointing folks to a useful article or other bit of advice. Whatever your joy and passion are in life, let them shine in your posts. Cuisine, sports, cars, coffee. I don't care how "uncool" it seems, throw it out there if it represents you.
2. Wise
Making a clever observation on the human condition. This is one I posted just today:
How to slow down time:
Live without passion, purpose or intent. Your days will go crawling by.
Yup, pretty scholarly. But if you can't think up anything, browse around for quotes by people you admire.
3. Funny
Any link or comment intended to make people laugh. I'd be careful with this one. If you post an excessive number of jokes, you come off as that entertainer guy. He usually overstays his welcome if he isn't killing it with his material. So use humor sparingly.
4. Nonsense
You know, those weird posts hot girls put on their wall...
"OMG 3 more left!!!"
WTF?
Whatever. I usually recommend avoiding anything too cryptic, though once in a while it's fine. Useful as an inside joke between you and some friends, provided they catch on and run with it.
5. Status
Something that tells others what's up in your world.
"On my way to Sizzlers"
"F'in dog. Didn't sleep til 3!!"
Well heck, that's why we call it a "status update." Most people use FB for this, but always be thinking outside the box. If you do want to let people know what's on your mind, tend to keep things positive and upbeat, not mean or negative. And if you want to say where you're heading or where you've been, use colorful language that depicts your enthusiasm.
6. Opinion
Telling people what you think of this or that. Again, try to keep it smart and positive. A bunch of ranting and negativity tends to alienate others.
7. Friend communication
Anytime you post on a friend's wall, that exchange appears for others to see. So make it count!
Ideally you mix these up, maybe trying a different one each day. Either way, you're a winner!!
1. Informative
Pointing folks to a useful article or other bit of advice. Whatever your joy and passion are in life, let them shine in your posts. Cuisine, sports, cars, coffee. I don't care how "uncool" it seems, throw it out there if it represents you.
2. Wise
Making a clever observation on the human condition. This is one I posted just today:How to slow down time:
Live without passion, purpose or intent. Your days will go crawling by.
Yup, pretty scholarly. But if you can't think up anything, browse around for quotes by people you admire.
3. Funny
Any link or comment intended to make people laugh. I'd be careful with this one. If you post an excessive number of jokes, you come off as that entertainer guy. He usually overstays his welcome if he isn't killing it with his material. So use humor sparingly.
4. Nonsense
You know, those weird posts hot girls put on their wall...
"OMG 3 more left!!!"
WTF?
Whatever. I usually recommend avoiding anything too cryptic, though once in a while it's fine. Useful as an inside joke between you and some friends, provided they catch on and run with it.
5. Status
Something that tells others what's up in your world.
"On my way to Sizzlers"
"F'in dog. Didn't sleep til 3!!"
Well heck, that's why we call it a "status update." Most people use FB for this, but always be thinking outside the box. If you do want to let people know what's on your mind, tend to keep things positive and upbeat, not mean or negative. And if you want to say where you're heading or where you've been, use colorful language that depicts your enthusiasm.
6. Opinion
Telling people what you think of this or that. Again, try to keep it smart and positive. A bunch of ranting and negativity tends to alienate others.
7. Friend communication
Anytime you post on a friend's wall, that exchange appears for others to see. So make it count!
Ideally you mix these up, maybe trying a different one each day. Either way, you're a winner!!
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
Life Coaching for YOU
I've been hit up by dudes all over the country, asking how I can help em out. They don't live near me, which makes full enrollment in Man School impossible (unless they wanna come crash on my couch...but then Monty wouldn't be too pleased).
So for these guys, I'm making life coaching by itself available. We will work out as much as possible over Skype. I may not be able to get a FULL handle on what's going on in your life, but I think even a glimmer can be enough in many cases. Here's the link, fellas...
http://www.manschool.cc/enroll.htm
So for these guys, I'm making life coaching by itself available. We will work out as much as possible over Skype. I may not be able to get a FULL handle on what's going on in your life, but I think even a glimmer can be enough in many cases. Here's the link, fellas...
http://www.manschool.cc/enroll.htm
Amazon Dude and Your Mission
If you missed it, a Brit just walked the length of the Amazon River...the first time a man has done this.
http://news.yahoo.com/nphotos/British-man-walks-entire-Amazon-river/ss/events/wl/080910edstafford
Some would probably call this bloke a loony, since he did almost die several times. Angry tribes people, snakes, floods, sickness, bugs. It's a scawy place. And yet, he marched on. For 2 1/2 years!!
Peeps, it's ALL about the journey, not about the destination.
He set his intention, followed his passion, and pushed past all obstacles so he could reach the end. But the end point was probably not what compelled him every day, it was simply the journey and all the adventures it would bring.
If you're someone who has his focus set on the goal but isn't living the process, take a lesson from Amazon Dude.
http://www.manschool.cc/purpose.htm
http://news.yahoo.com/nphotos/British-man-walks-entire-Amazon-river/ss/events/wl/080910edstafford
Some would probably call this bloke a loony, since he did almost die several times. Angry tribes people, snakes, floods, sickness, bugs. It's a scawy place. And yet, he marched on. For 2 1/2 years!!
Peeps, it's ALL about the journey, not about the destination.
He set his intention, followed his passion, and pushed past all obstacles so he could reach the end. But the end point was probably not what compelled him every day, it was simply the journey and all the adventures it would bring.
If you're someone who has his focus set on the goal but isn't living the process, take a lesson from Amazon Dude.
http://www.manschool.cc/purpose.htm
Monday, August 9, 2010
Our new Video Library
Just started a YouTube page to hold my Video Library of lectures. Short clips, lotsa fun.
http://www.youtube.com/user/ManSchoolcc
http://www.youtube.com/user/ManSchoolcc
Sunday, August 8, 2010
The Launch of Man School!
Welcome everyone!
Today is the official launch of Man School.
http://manschool.cc/
To kick it off, I'm giving a talk to the Casanova Crew in Los Angeles called, "The 3 Steps to Taking Action." I'll be discussing assertiveness, intent and drive.
Should be off the hook!!
Dr. M
Today is the official launch of Man School.
http://manschool.cc/
To kick it off, I'm giving a talk to the Casanova Crew in Los Angeles called, "The 3 Steps to Taking Action." I'll be discussing assertiveness, intent and drive.
Should be off the hook!!
Dr. M
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